The Principle of Attraction

So, I took some time off. I’d been back to the States for the first holiday season in god knows how many years, and, to be honest, I found it difficult to be present with both my business and my family and friends. I chose to be present with family and friends - who knows when I’ll have that luxury again!

But, when I returned again to Bali, I expected all the excitement, energy, and good vibes to come flooding back. And, they didn’t. At least not at first. I realised that, when I took time off, I also stopped thinking of my direction. I literally STOPPED in my tracks, and expected my attention to automatically go back to where it needed to be.

I was a little lost for a few days. And I thought of what had given me that energy before. I’ve never been a spiritual or ‘woo-woo’ person. But I do know that our thoughts and actions and focus guide us. ‘That which we manifest is before us, we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our successes and our failures have been brought on by none other than ourselves ” is one of my favourite quotes. It comes from Enzo the Dog in a book called The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein. He’s describing [sounds weird, I know, for a dog to have a voice, but bear with me…] his owner’s experience of driving his race car where his eyes go. If he focuses on the car next to him, he’ll ultimately hit that car.

I know this to be true. When I was in Vietnam, I took a bike tour outside of Hoi An. We traveled through rice paddies on tiny paths, passed rice drying in the sun and uniformed boys racing home from school. The local kids were all very curious and excited to see us, and as I passed a group I boldly went for High Fives. [Cool, huh?] Then I saw the wall, about 30 feet in front of me at the T junction at the end of the road. Oh! There’s a wall! I need to turn to avoid the wall. Huh, the wall is getting closer. I hope I don’t crash into the wall. And, you know what happened. I ran straight into the wall. Now, I could easily have turned. I’d navigated tiny paths all day! But, I didn’t turn. And I smacked into the wall. If I wasn’t cool for the High Fives, certainly this sealed my fate.

Now, I didn’t manifest the wall. But, my thoughts and actions guided me to it. Do I believe in the Law of Attraction? Not entirely. I certainly don’t think that if I just think of having a million dollars in the bank, I’ll wake up one day and find it magically there. But I do believe that our outlook has a direct impact on our success, happiness and well-being.

As Neil Farber writes on Psychology today, it’s better to consider a Principle of Attraction, rather than a Law. “The Principle of Attraction is not magic and is not a universal law. It is a social scientific phenomenon, which implies that you have an active role in this process, your positive attitude, beliefs, and behavior will most likely bring you more of the same.” Scientifically, “Positive people tend to have greater success in their career, higher salaries, better jobs, better relationships, improved health, and more altruism.”

So, I know the energy I had the last time I was in Bali was down to me, my thoughts and focus and outlook. And the same goes for when I’ve felt I’ve lost that energy: it’s down to me.

I know which state I’d rather be in. How about you?

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Kristen Franey