In his book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Dr. Joe Dispenza writes about the possibility of change being a choice, instead of a reaction.
All too often, which means most of the time, we need to hit rock bottom before we make significant changes. Both society and individuals ‘wait for crisis, trauma, loss, disease, and tragedy before we get down to looking at who we are, what we are doing, how we are living, what we are feeling and what we believe or know, in order to embrace true change.’
What if I told you that you don’t need to hit rock bottom. That a life unlimited, full of direction and purpose, aligned to your values will make your regular life look like it’s rock bottom, even if it doesn’t feel that way now?
How many times do you come home from work, and open a bottle of wine. You have a glass or two while you catch up on all the goings on that you missed on FB and Instagram, and then have dinner. I bet you order in, or cook something from frozen, because it’s been a long day and there’s just no time to make a whole meal. And, you tune into the latest binge-worthy show on Netflix while you eat, and have another glass of wine. Soon enough, you have only a smidge left in the bottle, and either decide it’s a waste to put it back in the fridge and finish it off instead, or feel a small victory for not actually finishing a whole bottle of wine.
And then you go to bed, and as you try to sleep fret ,about all the stuff you need to get done at work tomorrow, wondering what you’re going to wear, and why on earth you pretty much finished a bottle of wine. Again. And then you vow not to do it again tomorrow.
So, work goes pretty much the same - boring, frustrating, how many times will the same issues come up and you have to put out the same fires? And you come home, determined to have a different type of evening than all the others this week. And last week. Hell, and last month and last year. So, you don’t check FB right away, and maybe even put on your gym clothes, and then you realise you need to get water before you go to the gym, and you go to the grocery store instead, which takes so much time you skip the gym and vow to go tomorrow night becaues now you’ll be prepared with all this water. Oh, and while you’re there, you just pick up a bottle of wine and a bit of salad, because you may as well.
And, cue repeating the night before. Ad nauseum.
So, you’ve not hit rock bottom in the traditional sense. You are not at risk of being evicted, you have friends [who love to update FB so you know what’s going on in their lives] and you have a decent paying job that just allowed you to buy that new designer bag you’ve had your eye on. Heck, you’re even choosing fancy pants bottles of wine, not drinking Mad Dog 20/20 shielded by a brown paper bag. I mean, that would truly be rock bottom.
But are you at the top of where you can be? Are you living your life to the fullest? If you aren’t, I’m gonna go all out and say, you have hit crisis point. You have unique special talents that no one else in the world has. You have a message and a spirit and a need to feel useful and purposeful. You have purpose in this world. And if you are not living a life unlimited on this path, you are at crisis point. You just may not know it yet.