Posts tagged JFDI
3 Truths, no lies.

I have to be honest… I’ve found it a bit difficult to write a big life-changing post this week.

That’s because I’ve been doing less stuff that seems big. I’ve been much more focused on the daily - my routine, my training, my food choices, my being. Although I suppose all that is kinda big. But it’s all been showing up in little ways.

So, this week, I’m sharing a few of my favourite resources with you. These are things I’ve come back to this week to keep me on track.


I first came across Simon Sinek when I was a corporate leader. We used his "Start With Why" methodology to get to the reasons someone had done something the way they did so that we could coach on the best way forward. We used it to ensure we explained they why behind what we were doing to ensure our teams were bought in and inspired to do what the business wanted. And we used it as a sales technique - explain why the customer needs the item and they’ll be more likely to buy.

But now, I go back to Start With Why - and am reviewing Find Your Why - not with a business lens, but with a personal development and growth lens.

Simon Sinek - Start With Why


For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been super mindful of how I’m spending my time. When I left Dubai, I had a massive clear out and ruthlessly got rid of stuff. I had a lot of it, hidden away in all my wardrobes and closets. I did the same when I left Malaysia, for practical reasons. Without a job at the time, there was no sense in paying for storage for ‘stuff’ that didn’t have value to me. I freely gave stuff away - to people that were shocked at some of the fairly new stuff I was getting rid of. While some of it may have had a moderate monetary value, none of it held any value to me. It was freeing. I’ve been applying that to how I’m spending my time. Is it valuable for me to do? Great! I’m all in! [Sweating profusely 3 times a week costs me a small fortune, yet I look forward to it because it's valuable.]

Sarah Knight talks about how we spend our time. Note that her language is NSFW. Maybe that’s part of why I like it so much. [I also swear a lot while I’m sweating.]

Sarah Knight - The Magic of Not Giving a F***


JFDI! What I’m doing is just fucking doing it. I’ve done a lot of the big things, and now I’m doing the small things. I’m doing All The Things. Just this second, I agreed to do something super scary that I was finding an excuse not to do. There’s a women’s event just down the road, and you have to speak in front of the group. And say what you do. Ack! Hello, limiting beliefs! I have a call the same day, which will finish an hour before the event starts. 2 people asked if I was going to the event, and to both, I replied, Well… It depends on when my call finishes. I KNOW what time my call finishes, and the event is literally 5 minutes away. So, the exchange went like this:

Me: Maybe we can meet for lunch if I don’t make it to the speed networking event?

V: Oooh! Are you definitely going? I’ll go if you go!

Me: Hmmm… I’m 50/50. Depends when my call finishes.

Me: Wait! No! That’s an excuse! I’m going. Would you like to join?

Hurrah! JFDI.

If you’re unhappy with your life path, take any turn possible.

The One Where I Felt Stuck

I’ve written about FEAR before. And, I say capital FEAR, because it was largely about overcoming or facing our big FEARs in life. Once you realise that all the best things in life are on the other side of FEAR, it’s easier to act.

But, that doesn’t mean we don’t still face lowercase fear each and every day. This can show up as not taking action, not making decisions. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, and safe means doing things that are comfortable, easy, and don’t require any challenge. The problem with this is that we get stuck on autopilot, and get stuck in our routines and habits. It also means, that, sometimes, even if we know we need to do The Thing, we don’t do The Thing.

And then we get into a cycle of frustration, knowing we want The Thing, and annoyed with ourselves for not doing anything about it.

My recent Thing has been email automation. I’ve known I need to get this sorted for months. This isn’t a big Thing, but I made it big because I couldn’t figure it out. I’m no means technically minded. I am teaching myself and have learned lots, but I am not an expert. So, I’ve researched and researched and read and read, and everyone says programs like MailChimp are easy. Let me tell you, MailChimp is not my friend. The more I tried to get started, the more confused I got. And the more this whole project seemed to be a daunting and intimidating task. So, I didn’t do anything about it. Except continue to worry and stress that I didn’t have it done.

Sound familiar?

The longer I stewed over it, the bigger it became and the more afraid I was. I was afraid I’d get it wrong, that my email wouldn’t be good enough and that I’d send some crazy email to the wrong person.

Until I decided to JFDI: Just Fucking Do It. Rather than continue to stew and stress, I figured out a way to get it done. I reached out for help and got the answers I needed. It wasn’t so scary after all. But I had built the fear up to be monumental and so hadn't done anything at all. Taking that first step felt awesome! A weight was lifted and I immediately felt more in control.

Taking action isn't usually the scary part - it's the fear of what happens when we do something new. And usually, we've built up all sorts of worst case scenarios in our heads while we're thinking about it. This leaves us paralysed, stuck.

In my case, I thought the worst thing that could happen was that I wouldn't get my email right, it wouldn't be perfect on my first try. In reality, the worst thing that was happening was that I wasn't doing anything to reach people and share my message.

So, what happens when we ask ourselves instead, What's the BEST thing that will happen when [not if] I do this? And, then, Just Fucking Do It.

What happens is this: We change the negative habit loop in our brains and start seeing results. Once we act, and take that first step, no matter how small, we feel better. And that propels us to take the next action, and the next. We create a positive habit loop, and momentum propels us to continue taking action.

Mel Robbins explains it like this when talking about the 5 Second Rule:

"And, the more action that you take, the better your life will become. This is a concept in psychology called “Do Good, Be Good.” It actually dates back to Aristotle. It’s the idea that you can’t just think yourself to change. You need to actually take action."

What is The Thing for you? Ask yourself what is the best thing that can happen when you do it. And, Just Fucking Do It.

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